Before you have kids, everyone tells you how fast it goes. But you don’t really understand quite how fast until you’re curled up in a ball and sobbing over baby pictures. You blinked, and your little baby who was just learning how to walk is now going to college. How did this happen?
Maybe you’re not quite there yet, but you can bet the time is coming soon. Get ready.
The more they grow the less you know
It’s truly amazing how much kids learn in a short period of time. From learning new words to reading or tying their shoes, young kids are like sponges. But when they’re little, they still know they need you. They understand that you have more knowledge and experience than they do.
As kids approach their teenage years, this usually flies out the window. They’ll act as though they know more about life than you could possibly know.
If you’re at this stage, know that it’s usually temporary. As your children embark on their own, they realize that they don’t know everything and they do need your expertise. Try to be patient during this time and let your children make their own mistakes (as long as they are somewhat minor).
Mental health is a growing problem
Unfortunately, we live in a society where mental health is a growing issue. Teen suicide rates hit a 40-year high for young girls in 2015, and that’s enough to scare any parent.
Talk to your children, boys included, about what’s going on in their lives. If you suspect bullying at school, talk to your kids’ teachers or principal. If there seem to be other issues at play, like substance abuse and/or depression, don’t hesitate to send your child to therapy. Addressing any underlying mental health issues now will help give your child a chance to become a more successful adult.
Your grocery bill will expand …and expand some more
Anyone who has ever raised a teenage boy will tell you that you’re going to spend a small fortune at the grocery store. Brace yourself and understand that one day, he’ll be buying his own groceries.
Don’t think you’re getting off easy with teenage girls either. They can eat just as much as their male counterparts. It all depends on the child, but you should always be prepared with easy and inexpensive meals that your kids will enjoy.
Sure, you may have to learn the art of couponing, but it’ll all be worthwhile in the end.
People always say that raising kids should come with a handbook, but there’s probably a reason it doesn’t. There are some similarities, but every child is unique in their needs and personality. Expect the worst and hope for the best as your child grows. And try to remember to take care of yourself during the difficult times. This will help you keep a level head when tensions get high.
There’s always a big part of every parent that hates seeing babies grow into adults, but it can also be satisfying to know you’ve raised smart and successful adults.