In the sex toy industry, there are a few items that have gained widespread popularity in recent decades – the wand massager is one of them.
Since the early 70s, these massagers have played a huge part in the way women achieve their orgasm. Many people are of the view that they are only good for masturbation, however, wand vibrators can take your sex play to a whole new different level with your partner, too.
So how to get the best out of a wand massager? Let’s find out..
How to Use When You’re Alone
When you’re with yourself all alone, these massagers can give you the best orgasms that you could possibly imagine. Here are some basics on how to use these:
Get Your Body Into It
It is important to warm up your body, the muscles and the blood flow before you start using your sex toy. If your body is completely stressed out after a long day at work or any other physical activity, it might require some time before you can really get into it.
Give your body the time it needs for relaxation by slowly touching yourself. Use your fingers around and on your clitoris as gently as you can. Don’t go too hard or abrupt with yourself by jumping on your sex toy right away.
Some nice porn or thinking about your crush might help your body release stress and get warmed up.
Keep Moving and Find a Rhythm
Let your body move as naturally as it wants to while you’re touching yourself. Don’t limit your body movements by forcefully controlling yourself. You need to find a nice rhythm before you start using the massager.
Remember, wand massagers have strong vibrations. If your body is not into a nice rhythm, you might have a rather quick and weak orgasm – you don’t wanna have that, do you?
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Hit the Right Spots with the Massager
And now comes your favorite sex toy. Start by using it at low vibrations initially, and slowly make the vibrations stronger. Move the massager up, down, left, right, in circular motions or any other pattern that you enjoy.
Holding the massager at one place might not be as pleasurable as it is to move around your clitoris in different patterns. Also, modern-day wand massagers come with different vibration patterns and strengths, so we suggest to keep playing around with it during the entire masturbation session to enjoy various sensations.
Once you have your orgasm, you don’t have to stop because guess what – you’re a woman and you can have multiple orgasms! If you’re still into it and feel like having more fun with your sex toy, keep using it to get more orgasms.
How to Use with Your Sex Partner
Wand massager is usually the first choice for a lot of couples out there. If used the right way, these toys can really turn on the entire mood and add to the overall sexual pleasure. Here are some tips:
Privacy Always Helps
Most of us are not exhibitionists, it’s always a good idea to find a nice place for maximum privacy. A bed, a couch or a floor of a room that can be locked is a good place to start.
Even if you or your partner don’t feel shy about getting cozy in public, you still might not want to be using your sex toys at a beach or a park with people walking and staring at you.
Begin with a Nice Conversation
If she’s not a hooker, don’t treat her like one. You don’t have to get into the real deal right away. Start by asking her about her day, whatever her mind has been occupied with. Compliment her on her looks, the perfume she’s wearing or her recent achievements at work.
A romantic conversation plays a vital role in whatever sex play is to follow.
Foreplay with Hands, Fingers and Tongue
As you slowly get into a nice rhythm with your partner, start touching her using your hands and fingers. If you know your partner well, you’ll be sure of the way that turns her on the most. If you’re doing it for the first time with her, explore her body nice and slow, and see what she likes.
Along with your hands and fingers, start using your tongue on and around her clitoris to further strengthen your foreplay session with your partner. Her body movements and moans will tell you if you’re doing it right.
Foreplay with the Wand Massager
Once you have a nice sexual foreplay going on with your partner, bring in the wand massager at the right time. Start with low vibrations, around her clitoris and tease her as long as possible.
Remember, wand massagers have real strong vibrations, so if you press it against the clitoris too soon, it might bring her to orgasm right away (depending on how sensitive your partner is).
A nice way to start is to just touch the tip of the wand massager against the clitoris instead of pressing it too hard. Let the massager just ‘kiss’ the clitoris and make her want more. Then slowly use it in all directions (up, down, left, right, circles, etc.), along with any other foreplay that you and your partner are into.
Many women experience strong, squirting orgasms with a wand massager. Just make sure that you gradually increase the vibration patterns and the intensity of contact against your clitoris.
Keep Using it During Entire Sex Play
For maximum stimulation and sexual pleasure, keep using the wand massager during the entire sex play with your partner. Once she’s all turned on and you’re already trying various sex positions, don’t forget to use the massager after frequent intervals.
You will be surprised with the intensity of her orgasms because of this amazing wand vibrator!