If you’ve been married for a long time, chances are that things have gotten a bit stale between yourself and your hubby. Even if there is nothing necessarily wrong with your marriage, all of the mundane tasks that you need to do and discuss every day can get in the way of romance.
Once you’ve had children, it can also feel like there is no time to dedicate to one another, with so many other additional responsibilities to take care of, like work, school activities and even household maintenance.
However, there are many simple ways that you can rekindle your relationship with your hubby if things have become a bit dull and monotonous between you two. In this article, we outline just some ideas on how to get the fire going between you once again.
4 Ways to Rekindle Your Relationship With Hubby
1. Talk to each other
This might sound pretty obvious, since you probably talk to each other all the time. However, when was the last time you really sat aside some time just to talk? Not about the kids, your finances or the plumbing that needs to be fixed upstairs. In fact, when was the last time you dedicated any time to talking about you, and your relationship?
While it might sound ridiculous, taking time every week just to talk about your relationship and how you are feeling can do wonders for your bond. You might live with and sleep next to the same person every night, but there are things going on his head that you might not even have thought about.
Even if you just set aside half an hour every week to just talk about yourselves and your relationship, over time there is sure to be a spark. It might be difficult in the beginning, but once you get into the habit of doing it, you might be surprised at how much you will bond just by talking.
2. Go on a date
Some couples are good about setting up a regular date night, but when you see someone so much, it might seem ridiculous to do so much planning just to see and talk to the same person that you would at home.
However, following on from the point above, taking time out of your schedule to go somewhere new and experience something different together can do wonders for breaking out of your mundane day to day routines.
This also doesn’t have to mean expensive dinners or shows, although you could do this if you like. It could be as simple as watching the sunset together from your balcony or garden, or even just going for a walk in a beautiful place.
When you make the effort to carve out time together, you might be surprised at what you’ll learn about each other, even after so many years together.
3. Watch sports together
If your hubby is a sports fan, there’s no doubt that he spends a lot of time shouting at the television in your living room, or going out to watch games with his friends at a local bar.
While you might have decided that this is his “boy’s time”, why not take the time to understand why he’s so passionate about, and learn more about the league he supports and the players?
You might not want to spend all of your time watching sports, but just showing a bit of interest in his hobby could help the two of you bond over a common interest. In fact, to make things more fun, you could even challenge each other in picking the winner.
Once you start betting, you’ll realise there is a whole world of sports out there that you didn’t think possible, and who knows? Perhaps engaging in this kind of shared, competitive activity will mean that you’ll start spending more time on your own couch watching the games together.
4. Do something physical together
By getting physical together, we don’t necessarily mean getting straight into bed with each other, although you can certainly do that if you like!
In fact, sleeping together is really just one way of expressing togetherness in a physical way. Touch and sensuality are really the foundational building blocks to maintaining a solid physical connection,, so to really get things going in the bedroom, it can be helpful to get back to basics.
Just making an effort to be more affectionate could be the first port of call, and after that, maybe giving him a back rub before you go to bed one night could spark a series of massages, which in turn could lead to you massaging one another.
Besides this, any kind of physical activity that makes you sweat, could help you to remember what it was like when you were first together and there was so much excitement about being close to one another. In fact, the popularity of partner activities like acro yoga could also be a fun activity to explore and get to interact with one another in a different way.
In the article above, we’ve outlined just some of the simple ways that you can rekindle your relationship with hubby if things have gotten a bit stale. While there is no quick fix for deepening a relationship, by following some of the tips above, you’re sure to have many more opportunities to connect.
These connections will then lay the foundation for more and more sharing, and perhaps rekindling that fire between you that is burning a bit low.
Who knows, maybe by following some of the steps above you’ll even start to come up with some more of your own ideas!