Moving can be a lot of fun in some instances. Maybe you’re moving out of an apartment and into a house for the first time. Becoming a homeowner is a significant change, but you’re probably eager never to deal with landlords again.
However, maybe you’re moving, and you’re feeling some negative emotions about it. There can be bittersweet moves, and we’ll talk about those right now. Here are four things to think about if you have an emotional move coming up this year.
Your Feelings Will Not Last Forever
There are many reasons why you may feel particularly emotional about an upcoming move. Maybe you’re moving out of your childhood home, and you spent many happy times there. You’re not sure what the future holds, so you’re feeling some sadness and trepidation.
Maybe you’re moving out of a house where you lived with someone who has died. You feel like you’re leaving that person behind as well.
Learning to deal with the stress of emotions is not the world’s easiest thing. Feelings don’t last forever, though, either positive or negative ones. The human body, and psyche, don’t function that way.
We are meant to feel things and then move on from them. Some emotions can linger and resurface from time to time, but the adage that time heals all wounds is usually true.
You might feel very emotional while you’re moving and for some time afterward, but remember that if you ride out those feelings, they are liable to change in time. You may feel echoes of them occasionally, but the emotions will sting the most for only a brief time.
You Can Do Things to Counteract Your Feelings
You can also wallow in the emotions you are feeling, or you can take decisive actions against them. Say that you’re feeling bad about a move for some reason. You might do something fun that you know you enjoy to try and deliberately take your mind off it.
You might call up some friends and go see a movie or go bowling with them. You can go for a walk in a nearby park and spend some time in nature. You might go for a bike ride or go to the gym and work out.
You don’t have to completely avoid or swallow your emotions, but you can also take action, so they don’t control you. You should know that you can be proactive about tamping your emotions down if they threaten to overpower you.
You Can Talk to a Professional
An emotional move can stir up your feelings, much like any traumatic event. Whatever the reason for your move, you might feel like speaking to a professional therapist may be the way to go.
You can make an appointment and talk to a professional about why you feel the way you do. You can explain why this move is so emotional for you, and they should have good advice on how to cope with what you’re experiencing.
If you’re not sure of the best way to process your anger, grief, or other negative feelings, getting professional help might be the best thing for you. You can continue going to the therapist for as long as you feel that it is necessary.
You Can Talk to Family and Friends
Maybe you’re someone who does not like to go to therapy. Perhaps you feel like you can’t afford it. Therapy costs money, and maybe you don’t have insurance that will cover it.
You can always talk to your family members or friends about what’s happening with you instead. Consider what is going on in your life that has led to you feeling this way about your move, and then think about who you might possibly speak to about it.
You will want to choose someone who you know has empathy. You will also want to select someone who can look at the situation impartially because they have no direct connection to it.
Nearly every person has someone in their life who they can talk to if they feel down. Now may be the moment for you to identify that person.
If you have a partner or spouse, maybe you can talk to them about how you feel. If you have a parent, sibling, or a very good friend, any of those might work.
Whatever you do, make sure you deal with these feelings in the healthiest and most productive way you can.