A Class Divided

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In 1968 a third-grade teacher named Jane Elliot was compelled to give her students a lesson in discrimination after the death of Dr. Martin Luther King. Jr. Watch the PBS 10-minute clip of A Class Divided: *Thank you to my good friend Erin for sharing this video with me last night. * … [Read more...]

To Assume Makes an Ass out of (Yo)U and Me

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  Oh, I remember the days when everyone and their mother was writing articles about this blog without actually reading it. A total lack of understanding for the term “attachment parenting” caused very odd outbursts from journalists against my blog’s name. It was very creepy how they described it as some sort of weird mantra we “attachment parents” *must* have because *all* AP mothers "must stay home" and "refuse childcare"... Except, the name behind my blog is meant to be a … [Read more...]

Emmett Till

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One of the most heartbreaking stories of racism to receive national media attention was the story of Emmett Till.   Emmett was a 14-year-old boy who was brutally killed in 1955. The reports on what happened prior to the abduction and torture of Emmett seem to be that he was bragging to his friends about his segregated school. Emmett’s friends then dared him to sweet talk the woman in the shop they were in during the conversation. Emmett said something to her (reports are anything from a … [Read more...]

I’m a benign racist, but I don’t want my kids to be.

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This is a guest post for iamnotthebabysitter.com. We encourage voices of all mothers on the topics discussed on this blog. The views and opinions may not be those of iamnotthebabysitter.com, but we encourage and welcome respectful debate and the opinions of all mothers. We’re going to send our daughters to the public middle school.  Don’t hold me to it.  In a fit of helicoptering white-flight panic we might drive 5 miles away to the Pacific Palisades and send them to that middle school … [Read more...]

Confessions Of A Transracial Family

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Being an adoptive transracial family, we always knew we were going to face hardships other families would never have to deal with. Racism was something we expected, but I think we were unaware of the different kind of attacks we would face. What we have noticed the most are the subtle but insidious comments and disapproving looks. Over time it gets easier to ignore the outside silent judgement from other people, but no matter how thick your skin is, it is not something pleasant to deal … [Read more...]

“Beige and Brown”

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This is Samuel This is Aram Samuel and Aram are brothers They love each other They act the same They play the same They find the same things funny They are being raised in the same environment They have the same family, who love them both dearly But one of the boys will get treated differently by society Judgements will be passed People may ignore him People may harass him People may be afraid of him People may want to hurt him All because he has a little more … [Read more...]

Ethiopian American or African American?

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  This is a question a lot of American adoptive families of Ethiopian children ask. Most come to the conclusion that both terms are correct. What maybe we can’t answer is what our children will identify with. I spoke to my friend who is an adult that immigrated to Ethiopia as a child. He said that his family did such a wonderful job embracing all people and not showing favoritism to any ethnicity or race. This allowed him to feel like he could identify with whatever group he connected … [Read more...]

Daryl Davis

In light of our strange park experience yesterday, I thought I'd post about a man that has been inspirational to me. I remember first learning about Daryl Davis when I was an Anthropology major in 2005. I first thought it might be a PR ploy for the KKK (just like violent biker gangs put together toy drives and other charitable out-of-character work,)  and Mr. Davis was just an unsuspecting victim. The more I learned about Daryl Davis the more I realized the KKK actually wants people to … [Read more...]