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Sports Hosts Slam Mets Player for Taking Paternity Leave: “There’s nothing you can do, you’re not breastfeeding the kid.”

New York Mets player Daniel Murphy missed the first two games of the season after birth of his first child. Murphy’s wife was in Florida and happened to go into labor during opening day. He flew to her side to be present for the birth.

Murphy’s three-day paternity leave is quite standard for Major League Baseball players; Federal law allows fathers to take up to two weeks off work.

Not news, right?

If only it were that simple…

Many sports commentators are criticizing Murphy for his choice to take off more than 24 hours.

Mike Francesa is a popular sports personality for New York radio. He was quite surprised when he learned that Murphy opted to take paternity leave:

Some highlights…

“I don’t get it… I don’t know where it started to be honest with you… I’m going to guess that it started with natural childbirth… because it started being in the old days- guys weren’t present. They were, you know, in the waiting room when they had births. Then they went to this natural childbirth stuff, so the guys were part of it. So they were in the room and they were there and everything because they were part of it. And then everybody wanted to be there, which I understand.”

Then…

“I don’t know why you need three days off, I’m going to be honest. You see the birth and you get back. What do you do in the first couple days? Maybe you take care of the other kids. Well, you gotta have someone to do that if you’re a Major League Baseball player. I’m sorry, but you do … Your wife doesn’t need your help the first couple days, you know that.”

And finally…

“One day, I understand. Go see the baby be born and come back. You’re a Major League Baseball player, you can hire a nurse to take care of the baby if your wife needs help … What are you gonna do? Are you gonna sit there and look at your wife in the hospital bed for two days?”

Then, former NFL quarterback and current radio host Boomer Esiason chimed in with fellow radio host Craig Carton about Murphy’s controversial paternity leave.

Carton used breastfeeding in his reasoning as to why Murphy should get back to work immediately:

“You get your ass back to your team and you play baseball … there’s nothing you can do, you’re not breastfeeding the kid.”

Esiason sounded as if he were defending Murphy at first. “He has legal rights to be there if he wants to be there.” He said. However, he was quick to defend his own misogynistic position.

“I would have said C-section before the season starts; I need to be at opening day. I’m sorry- this is what makes our money, this is how we are going to live our life, this is going to give my child every opportunity to be a success in life. I’ll be able to afford any college I want to send my child to because I’m a baseball player.”

Money and expensive institutionalized education. Wow, he certainly nailed down the important things in life.

As for Murphy? He told ESPN it was absolutely the right decision:

“I got a couple of text messages about it, so I’m not going to sit here and lie and say I didn’t hear about it,” Murphy said about the radio hosts comments. “But that’s the awesome part about being blessed, about being a parent, is you get that choice. My wife and I discussed it, and we felt the best thing for our family was for me to try to stay for an extra day — that being Wednesday — due to the fact that she can’t travel for two weeks.”

He then added:

“It’s going to be tough for her to get up to New York for a month. I can only speak from my experience — a father seeing his wife – she was completely finished. I mean, she was done. She had surgery and she was wiped. Having me there helped a lot, and vice versa, to take some of the load off. … It felt, for us, like the right decision to make.”

 

Way to go, Murphy!

 

Nurturing Genetically “At Risk” Children

James Fallon is a neuroscientist who has spent his career studying psychopaths.

On accident, he learned that his brain had revealed someone who had scan patterns indicative to a psychopath.

He later found out his family history had a long line of people with clear psychopathic behavior.

So what led Fallon away from becoming a diagnostic psychopath?

He says a nurturing environment during childhood.

This is what my friend Bridget said about Fallon’s conclusion:
This, right here, is why I advocate “attachment”-style parenting. Where you have a genetic predisposition for antisocial behavior, a nurturing, responsive, sensitive caregiver has the potential to mediate the possible harmful effects of those genetics. It’s not so much about breastfeeding or co-sleeping or shunning strollers as it is about treating a child with empathy from the very beginning, so that they learn firsthand how to treat other people.”

This is why we see some children can be conventionally parented without any issues, and some children (especially “high needs” children), need more physical touch and interaction to truly thrive. You know your child better than anyone – do what you know is right for their unique needs.

Need: Best New App for Families

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This post was brought to you by Need .

 

Written by Cate Grosch

I have unlimited texting for a reason.  I love to send texts.  I love to receive texts.  I write short texts to friends about what time to meet for dinner.  I write long texts to friends recapping what happened last night at dinner.  And in the past, I have had to text friends asking for responses to my various inquiries:  Who painted your dining room?  Can I get her number?  Where did you guys eat last weekend?  Did you enjoy it?  What are some kid-friendly things to do on a rainy day?

As is the case with all good friendships, it goes both ways.  I am also on the receiving end of a consistent stream of texts asking similar questions about service professionals, home design, children’s activities, recipes and travel ideas.  And, although I love texting…and I really love my friends, there surely must be a better way to ask for what I need than a series of back and forth texts.

Now, there is.  It is an iPhone app called Need.

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A Good Man, a Better Father

“A good man, a better father.
How do you honor someone so remarkable?”

*(Grab the tissues)

Real Men of AP: Zombie Edition

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Here is another (not so) Real Man of AP.

“Stranded in the midst of a zombie apocalypse, a man sets in motion an unlikely plan to protect the precious cargo he carries: his infant daughter.”

This short film was a Tropfest Australia 2013 finalist.

Watch the creative and heartfelt story below:

7-Year-Old Girl Sent Home From School for Having Dreadlocks

Do you remember the 5-year-old that was suspended from school for having a mohawk? A similar situation is happening to another family in the US.

An Oklahoma father was told repeatedly by school officials of his 7-year-old daughter, Tiana’s charter school, that he would have to change her hair style because dreadlocks are seen as “unacceptable” and “distracting”.

Tiana’s father, Terrance Parker, happens to be a barber and took offense to the accusations of his child not looking presentable for school.

The Deborah Brown Community School does state “hairstyles such as dreadlocks, afros, mohawks, and other faddish styles are unacceptable.”

They would LOVE Samuel as a student!

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Mr. Parker responded by pulling Tiana out of Deborah Brown Community School and enrolling her in a school that thinks her hair is just fine.

Twins Give Birth Together in 1937 and Again in 1939

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Photo Source: Shorpy

The mothers pictured above are twin sisters, Eileen Moon, left, and Kathleen Robie, right.  Eileen Moon’s daughter was born on March 29, 1939, and Kathleen Robie’s daughter was born on April 1, 1939. In July, 1937,Kathleen Robie gave birth to a girl and a few hours later Eileen Moon’s baby, a boy, was born.

The “twins” image above and other high resolution vintage prints can be purchased at shorpy.com

Book Review and Giveaway: Get Your Child to the Top by Megan Lisa Jones

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Photo by Lori Dorman

I recently read Get Your Child To The Top: Help Your Child Succeed at School and Life by Megan Lisa Jones. The book tackles difficult subjects and modern-day struggles that our children are facing regarding education and the concerns for the rapidly evolving job market.

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I really enjoyed how Megan Lisa Jones is coming at this from a mother’s perspective and is interviewing experts in the fields she covering. This allowed for multiple expert perspectives rather than a single point of view. I also love how so many quotes are used throughout the book (if you haven’t noticed on this blog, I love a good quote).

This book addresses the idea of success as finding your child’s passion and aiding them in pursuing passion in areas where their time is spent. The book puts heavy emphasis on conventional schooling regarding success in education. As a homeschooling mother, I feel this book was extremely helpful in understanding the challenges parents and children are facing in the school system. Regardless of whether or not my children are in the school system, it does (and should) matter to me and other homeschooling parents. The future of our country is dependent upon the current generation we are raising, so all children should matter to us, not just our own. However, if we are speaking about family-specific helpful tips, I did feel some of the book did not apply to my children, specifically because we home-school. There is, however, a paragraph in the book focusing on the positive aspects of homeschooling, but ended with the fact that this commitment can be very taxing on the parents.

I ended the book with thoughts of how to better my children’s desire to really love and value their education, as well as thoughts on the future. For instance, we are starting to plan now for how we will pay for the boys’ college (if they choose to go), and whether we would cover all or some of the expenses.

Interested? We are giving away a copy. You can get expert opinions on the state of our education system and tips on helping your child pursue their passions by entering below!

 

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