I believe there is a basic kind of judgement that allows humans to assess every aspect of life. We are kept safe (either ourselves or by others) with this kind of “assessment judgement”. This kind of judgement allows you to make choices for your own life and family, form healthy opinions, and take action in dangerous situations.
Then there is the kind of judgement I find to be toxic to humanity. This is the type of judgement where humans give value to other human beings based on an action or observation. The judgement serves no purpose, saves no lives, and can be detrimental to both the person judging and the judged.
We are better than that.
“I don’t like that man. I must get to know him better.” – Abraham Lincoln
“Every criticism, judgment, diagnosis, and expression of anger is the tragic expression of an unmet need.” – Marshall Rosenberg
“’What will they think of me?’ must be put aside for bliss.” -Joseph Campbell
“I want to appreciate you without judging. Join you without invading. Invite you without demanding. Leave you without guilt.” – Virginia Satir