When you become a parent, your whole world changes. It’s no longer just you and your partner, you’re responsible for this little life. And so of course, everything becomes about them. However it’s important to not let your relationship deteriorate, and while things will undoubtedly be different to how they once were, they can still be fantastic if you put in the effort. Making some time for just you two to keep a close bond and the spark alive is so important. You might not get much free time as busy parents, but if you can try arrange something for you both to do. Maybe it could be to celebrate a birthday, anniversary or even ‘just because.’ One way you could go about this is by booking a mini- break or a weekend away. No kids, just you and your partner spending quality time together, relaxing and having fun. There are quite a few things to think about, so it probably won’t be all that spontaneous, but here’s how you can go about it!
Set a Budget
First things first, you need to know what money you’re working with. From there you can break it down into different categories- the cost of the trip itself, care costs, transport costs, spending money. You might need new luggage or clothes too. Planning all of this way in advance gives you time to save so you’re not scraping by and can comfortably afford everything you need. It’s not to say you need to spend a fortune to have a good time, but there are a lot of costs to consider. You don’t want to run out halfway through the planning stages or while you’re away, so this is something you will need to put some consideration into.
Decide on a Destination
Will you go to another state or another country, or stay a bit closer to home? You could travel to a place that holds some significance to you as a couple. Your budget and how comfortable you are leaving your children will probably be the deciding point for this. If you’re only going to be away for a couple of days, it makes sense not to go too far. That way the travel time doesn’t eat up most of your trip. When you’re deciding on a destination, be sure to check out the likely weather conditions and climate. Some places are better at certain times of the year than others. If you have your heart set on a particular place, you could check when it’s least likely to be rainy giving you the best chance of nice weather while you’re away.
Sort Out Your Care Responsibilities
When you care for other people- children, pets, elderly family members- going away on a break can be difficult. However there are sites out there which can help you find care for all of these, check out this Sittercity review for example. Alternatively you could ask family if they’re able to help out and give you a much-needed break. Knowing that everyone is safe and properly looked after gives you peace of mind and allows you to have a relaxing trip. A good agency will ensure all of their care workers have had background checks, but you could always do your own research too. If it’s someone you’ve never used before, having a good chat beforehand can put your mind at ease. Chat through your children’s schedule and be sure your phone is working when you’re away so they can contact you if needed.
Book The Time Off Work
Another issue that can make planning a trip away difficult, is work commitments. Make sure you and your partner book it off as early as possible to avoid disappointment. You don’t want to end up with everything ready to go, just to discover you can’t have the time off. If your trip is for two days, you might want to book three or four off. That gives you time to get everything sorted before you leave with no last minute stress, and also gives you an extra day when you get home to get everything in order. If you’re going to be doing a lot of traveling to your destination, whether it’s by car, train or plane, you might need the extra time to catch up on sleep afterward rather than going back to work exhausted.
Decide on Transport
If you’re traveling by train or plane, will you be driving to the airport or train station? If so, work out the cost involved leaving your car until you get back. Airport parking is notoriously expensive so it’s definitely a factor to work into your budget. If you are getting public transport or getting a lift, you’ll need to work out times and logistics. If you’re flying, how will you be getting from the airport to your hotel? Don’t just leave it until the last minute, getting organized in plenty of time means you avoid stress and everything runs and smoothly as possible. Working out costs, booking tickets and having timetables saved or printed are things you can do ahead of your trip.
The last thing you want is to arrive at your destination and realize you’re missing something important. However, for a weekend or mini break, you don’t want to overpack either. Writing a list and carefully going through it is useful. You’ll need clothes and footwear for both day and evening- having some idea about what you’re doing can help you to decide. If you bring versatile outfits, things that can be dressed up or down, you’ll save space in your suitcase. Don’t forget accessories such as jewelry, belts or any other bits and pieces to dress up your outfits. Your wash bag is another area you’ll need to get right. As well as your makeup and perfume, don’t forget the essentials! Toothbrush, toothpaste, mouthwash and a hairbrush to name a few! It saves you from having to hunt down a pharmacy or grocery store and leaves you to get on with the fun stuff. If you’re planning on one special night at a restaurant or bar, make sure you have everything you need so you’re dressed nicely. Something your partner is sure to appreciate too, you could go all out and aim to look your best!
Arrange Some Romantic Things To Do
You don’t need to have plans set in stone, but having a couple of ideas for things to do you means you’re more likely to make the most of your time away. Planning a few things to do can give a little structure to your days and ensure you’re not just wandering around aimlessly. If there are certain attractions or experiences you want to do, these might need booking before you leave so make sure that’s all sorted. It’s also worth doing your research with places to eat, that way you have an idea of where you’re going and the cost. That way you avoid ending up in places you’re not massively keen on or being in for a surprise when the bill arrives at the end of the evening! If you’re going away during the warmer months you could arrange a picnic, walk on the beach or bike ride which make for relaxing activities and don’t cost much either.
Find a Nice Hotel
Your hotel room will set the scene for your break. Even if you can’t afford five-star luxury, be sure to shop around. Compare prices, look at pictures of different rooms and go for the nicest one you can find in your budget. To make things extra romantic, how about decorating with rose petals, LED flameless candles and not forgetting a bottle of champagne! Somewhere with a balcony and nice views is a great way to wake up and go to bed each evening while you’re away. Read plenty of reviews so you know what you’ll be getting. Decide if you want meals included, just breakfast or if you’ll be fully self catering. Decide if a regular hotel is where you want to stay or if a resort would work well.
Unlike in the days, before you had kids, pets and a whole lot of responsibilities, you probably can’t just take a last minute trip these days. Unless you’re very lucky! However it doesn’t mean you have to give them up completely. With proper planning and research you can still have a fantastic time and enjoy much-needed quality time with your partner. Making time for yourself will only make the family bond so much stronger!
Do you ever get to enjoy a weekend away or mini break with your partner? Do you have any tips for making the process run a little more smoothly?