Breastfeeding an Adopted Older Child

Yes, you read that right: adoptive breastfeeding.

We had our appointment with the dreamy Dr. Gary Feldman (International Adoption specialist)- hello if you are reading this-

Dr. Feldman agreed that breastfeeding a child at any age is one of the best ways of creating strong bond between mother and child. He said if Samuel was willing, it would be beneficial, even if it was only for a month or so.

Since this is totally in my range of normal, I decided to try it out.  I had no idea what to expect from what I thought would be a very awkward encounter.

Well, it turns out that Samuel is a pro at nursing like Aram is. He was only weaned about six months ago. He was so happy that I invited him to do something that he had been watching Aram do for a month now. Since he is older it is not only is helping us both bond, but it solidifies his place in the family. He no longer feels like we are just helping out by watching and caring for him. He understands now that he is part of this family. I don’t think a younger child could quite articulate in their mind the importance of something like that.

I feel awful knowing he felt left out these past few weeks, but we are making up for lost time.


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  1. whitney 17 December, 2010, 05:45

    Good for you! I am so glad it makes him happy!

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  2. wendy 17 December, 2010, 05:55

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  3. Becky 17 December, 2010, 15:13

    Congratulations! I love it!:) I love nursing and I love that you’re doing it!!! Please do it in public or at church– stir it up!!!

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  4. Megan 18 December, 2010, 00:04

    Stir it up! I knew you were thinking of trying this. Glad it is working out. :-)

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  5. Zoe 19 December, 2010, 23:00

    You go, girl! And yes, do it at church. How else did Baby Jesus eat?

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  6. Mary 18 February, 2013, 18:39

    I lovvvve this <3<3

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  7. janet 18 February, 2013, 23:36

    love this…what a wonderful way to bond with your new son! :)

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  8. Sophie 25 September, 2013, 19:46

    This is wonderful! On another level and different situation I totally understand this and seen something similar happen with my 2 girls. When my 2nd child was born, my 1st was 19 months old and still nursing. It was a clear non-verbal message that the baby wasn’t taking her place but tagging along for the ride as well. I love tandem nursing, still today (2.5 and 1 yr old) and I believe it is the reason why my oldest child was never jealous of the newcomer, ever.

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  9. Relyssa Weeda 26 September, 2013, 22:01

    Oh yay! I’m glad I found this post, I had been wondering if you’d written a post on it. It’s so cool that you were able to do that for him :)

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