Samuel’s Adoption Homecoming Day

Samuel’s Adoption Homecoming Day


Samuel came home three years ago today. Looking back, it was a strange day full of a lot of emotions. There was the anticipation of his arrival which of course was exciting (a new family member is coming home!), but, even so, there was a lot of fear. Brian and I felt fear and, of course, Samuel did, too. He met me three years ago today. I always try to put myself in his place and it makes me incredibly sad._W2P3064


Oddly enough, the transition home was really smooth. I think a big part of it had to do with having Aram. They were the exact same size and inseparable from the moment Samuel arrived home. It was interesting to see how language didn’t matter a bit. They were able to communicate to each other exactly what they felt or wanted.

However, this day, three years ago, with all of it’s uncertainty, made me feel unsure of the future of our family. Would he ever be happy? Would he ever accept us? Would we have a close-knit family or would we be looked at always as the strangers (or worse) that I felt we were in that _MG_7558moment?

With all that being said, we want to honor this day and what it represents.  I see the beauty of this day, but it is also a day of mixed feelings, and maybe when Samuel is older he’ll want today to be a day of celebration, but right now we treat this day with a gentle respect. I look at where we were 3 years ago, and then I peak over this computer screen to see my children snuggled up in our bed with my husband discussing the fun day ahead of them, and I think of the journey taken in three short years: the separation, the reunification, the relationships, the celebrations, and even embracing the heartache- That is what we want to reflect on today.

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  1. Brenda 11 November, 2013, 11:35

    Happy home-iversary! How does Samuel feel about this day? Does he recognize it? Or is it just another day to him?

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  2. LittleOwlCrunchyMomma 11 November, 2013, 12:03

    Beautiful. <3 Thank you for sharing a bit of your heart with us on this day. Blessings to your family.

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  3. Allie Ferguson 11 November, 2013, 12:24

    Beautiful post. As a prospective adoptive parent in the waiting phase, I’m so very interested in reading about others’ experiences with adoption. It seems like you have had a very positive one! We are open to any race or gender so we are really not sure what is in store for us but are thrilled with the possibilities.

    Thank you for sharing your story!

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  4. Zoe - SlowMama 11 November, 2013, 14:13

    Lovely post — and I so get it. And can it really be three years? Amazing. It’s incredible what time and attachment and healing can bring. Doesn’t take away the sad parts, of course. I struggled with celebrating their homecoming day or not, and we decided to do it in a simple way and it was good.

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  5. Terran 11 November, 2013, 19:47

    I love your honestly and sincerity when it comes to your family. It’s so evident how much you all love each other and that none of your fears came true. Happy Adoption Day Samuel!

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  6. Philip J Reed 12 November, 2013, 09:26

    Great post Jamie. I always come away from reading your writing feeling warm. You have a wonderful family, and while you’re fortunate to have that, they’re just as fortunate to have you.

    All the best to you and Samuel and the rest of your loved ones!

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  7. LMK 15 November, 2013, 09:58

    Beautiful post! My daughter is from China and after reading some of the posts on your website, that I forget that my family is transracial! And when I see families that look alike, I think, “Wow! Isn’t that odd!” :-)

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  8. Catherine Carson-Vandiver 29 November, 2013, 11:31

    Just discovering your blog as I am moving away from my traditional blog to doing a blog about middle-aged mom life. And we’re transracial, too. :) Love the warmth that flows from your posts. Is it ok if I share a link to your blog on my Facebook page? – Thanks in advance! – CCV

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