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About Jamie Lynne Grumet and “I Am Not the Babysitter”:


This blog originally started as a way to keep our family informed through the adoption process. It then turned in to a way to connect with other adoptive parents and breastfeeding moms. In all of those relationships formed, each one of us was looking for support.

When Samuel was adopted into our family, I started getting mistaken for the babysitter of both of my children. Although never malicious, racism has a part in why people automatically assume to know our family dynamic (or lack thereof). We took on the name “I Am Not the Babysitter” as a joke and a gentle reminder that assumptions are often incorrect.  I hope that, with this blog, people will get a chance to see a family that may look a little different, but is as close and loving as a family that meets the stereotypical ideal. It is time to break barriers, stop making assumptions, and realize that families come in all different shapes and sizes and still define the term.

I will only write about what I know.

On this blog, I write about our experiences with adoption, attachment parenting, travel, marriage, and the global community our family has decided actively to take part in.

I want to celebrate the balance of life and family.

I have three purposes for this blog. The first is to inspire other women to make the healthiest choices for their families (parenting for each individual child’s needs rather than society’s wants).

The second is to encourage other women to have their own identity apart from their children.

The third and possibly most important part of what we are doing here I only realized in the last six months. This hobby started becoming more serious when I realized how powerful community can be. Through the support of this readership, we were able to bring national coverage and assistance to an HIV/AIDS children’s center in Awassa, Ethiopia, give 20,000 people (and counting) clean water, and provided an entire village in Ethiopia cloth diapers.

We’ve now expanded and are currently working on clean water and nutritional aid projects in South Africa.

Come join the fun, support the cause, and feel empowered to make the decisions that are right for your family!

(Contact: Lauren


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  1. Alex 2 July, 2010, 18:33

    Hi -
    I was looking for blogs about Ethiopian adoption because my husband and I just got matched to brothers, ages 1 month and 3 1/2 years old. We also went through WACAP, and we received the call about the referal on June 18th, a few days after we were told we would have to wait until the fall.
    Do you have your court date yet?
    We don’t have any other children, so I’m a bit crazed trying to figure out how to care for a toddler and a baby (we always wanted siblings, but we were told that it could take up to 2 years — we got our referal 6 months after we finished our paperwork and Visa application) . Thanks for your latest post on double strollers. I wasn’t sure what was needed for a 3 1/2 year old.
    Best of luck with your adoption. Maybe we will be in the same group in July.
    Take care

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    • Jamie 2 July, 2010, 23:30

      Thanks Alex,

      My husband is traveling both times ( I am going to try and come for the embassy trip, but my 2-year-old is still breastfeeding and I’m debating whether or not that is a good idea)- It sounds like you guys may be traveling together for both!

      We don’t have a court date yet! I hope we get one soon. We overnighted the referral acceptance back and they received it on the 22nd or something like that….so Hopefully we should hear something back soon.

      Since we only have our son I am a little nervous about having two, too! I think it is normal.

      keep in touch and let me know when you’re traveling!

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  2. laceymccutchen 13 January, 2014, 13:45

    I love that this blog exits. I am white, and our adopted son (we are raising my cousin) is white, but my husband is Sri Lankan. He often gets judgemental or even concerned looks when out alone is with him. Mostly from mothers it seems. It’s great that people are on the lookout for child abductors but when father and son get along so well and the only difference is their skin colour it really does come down to race as none would bat an eye if a random white man went for a walk with my son.
    Thanks for talking about this!

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  3. Jurga 19 February, 2014, 14:39

    Hi Jamie!

    I love your blog – it’s one of the best I’ve seen out there. I really enjoyed your posts about Ethiopia – I just read a book that’s set there, Cutting For Stone, and was fascinated with the world depicted in the book.

    I’d also like to share a cool idea for teaching reading that I’ve been helping with. This startup company is developing digital books that can “grow” in difficulty as children become better readers. You are a parent, so I thought you may find it interesting. They are running a Kickstarter campaign and you can be the first to try their books if you support it. I think it’s such a cool idea, so I’m trying to bring it up as often as possible. :)

    You can find it here:

    Looking forward to further posts!



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  4. treasureandheart 21 February, 2014, 09:21

    Hi! Just found your blog and I absolutely love it! My husband and I are in the process of adopting our first child, and it’s amazing finding a network of people in our boat! This is why I love the blog-o-sphere!! We are adopting transracially and I am bookmarking your blog for my daily reads! :) Thank you for posting about your experiences through it all. It’s SO beneficial for people like us, just starting out! All the best, Leah

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  5. Jennifer Carroll 24 March, 2014, 13:04

    Hi, I love your blog, I am a fan! I have just started a new FB page that aims to match bloggers interested in promoting cool products/companies/brands/items WITH companies interested in promotion! Only cool stuff will be advertised and you can pick and choose as you wish. Check it out, join if you’d like, and please feel free to spread the word! Thanks, Jennifer Carroll (

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  6. Emense 11 May, 2014, 09:39

    Hi Jamie,

    Happy Mother’s Day!

    We wanted to reach out and show you our project ( as we think you’re a role model for a lot of moms. We have interviewed and drawn 1 minute portraits for 100 moms. We were inspired by our own moms to find out what it is they really want for Mothers’ Day, and in general life. Moreover, this was perfect timing, as this is the hundredth Mothers’ Day in US history! Hopefully, this project has touched the hearts of the moms we’ve interviewed and inspires other moms who may see it!

    Please let us know your thoughts! And, if you’d like to add more moms to our list here!

    Best wishes! And, give a lot of love to your mom today!

    Emense, an NYC based creative agency.

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  7. talia 21 May, 2014, 14:43

    Hi Jamie!

    Couldn’t find a contact page but just want to let you know we love your blog! Do you ever guest blog?? Looking to collaborate with fellow momma bloggers out there in the interweb! Thank you for your time, love your work! <3 Talia and Becca

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  8. Vanessa Joy 4 June, 2014, 20:28

    Hello Jamie,
    Your story and photos are so beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing. My husband and I just celebrated our sons first birthday and have always been interested in transracial adoption and feel it is finally time to begin the process. I am struggling to find information of what agency you went with, your adoption timeline and any other references on ways to begin the process. Do you mind sharing more information with me or pointing me in the right direction. I would really appreciate it. Thank you so very much xxoo

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    • Jamie Lynne 4 June, 2014, 21:10

      Hi Vanessa! No agency is without its problems, but as we research ethical adoption agencies that facilitated Ethiopian adoptions (and this was three years ago so things could have changed), we were only willing to work with WACAP, WHFC, and CHFSF. Hope this helps! Definitely do your own research. Domestic adoption is an entirely different route that may want to explore.

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